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How Does Speed Dating Do

Monday, August 10th, 2009

Speed dating works well because you see what you want to get. This is very different from your normal online dating program, which might deceive you and hurt your feelings along the way. Personal ads in online dating sites have a way of lying, since you can put your most youthful image online while the truth is that you are not young anymore. Computer simulated images could be manipulated to change the looks and the physical nature of a person and what you could be fantasizing about could easily be a virtual deception. Speed dating brings you into the closest proximity with the date, where all the senses are put into play, as you read the mind of the date and let chemistry work on you.

What the date is cannot be changed, from his/her personality and body image, and you have it first hand rather than meeting an individual through phone calls and e-mails, as the chances of getting disappointed are immense. It does not mean that there will not be a clash of personalities and a struggle of emotions, the good thing is that the physical element cannot be ignored; it is there in plenty. The chances of a physical chemistry is there, so do not wait any longer; it might be what will work for you. You will never do justice to an online photo or an online dating profile.

Safety is the middle name of speed dating. No wonder women believe in it so much. You can never deduce what happens or what waits at the end of a phone line or online continuum in the course of your chat. Think of the rising number of psychopaths and serial killers on the rampage around the world; one might be waiting for you on the other end. It is also not some kind of a blind date in a bar which lacks in seriousness and mental preparation. Speed dating affairs take place in an organized, supervised manner within your locality or neighborhood, as you meet people whom you share common geography.

The problem with meeting a cute girl or a cool guy in a bar or an offline dating instance is that even if you have a fruitful conversation, great are the chances that he/she might be hiding something from you. They could be married, dating another person or even engaged. You could hit on the person innocently and you begin having ideas that all is going well. The kind of attention they are giving you might make you have the ideas that they are the one, only to hit you with a whirlpool of disappointment. Speed dating gives the chance to meet people with whom you share a common goal; meeting for love and dating since you are all singles.

How to Flirt

Wednesday, September 12th, 2007

Flirting Tips Help You Show Interest.

You are at a party and out of nowhere someone is standing close to you. Like a genie, they keep turning up, close by, catching your gaze. You go and chat and they stand in the same position as you, playing with their hair, laughing with you and holding your gaze. This person likes you and is flirting. How do you know? Because without realizing it, you are an expert in flirting and body language.

What would dating be without flirting. Flirting is fabulous, flirting is fun, flirting is giving out signals that we may be interested in someone, or we may be pretending. But within reason, flirting is part and parcel of our daily lives. Flirting can be harmful when it threatens fidelity but it can also be sexy and bring people closer together. Some people are good at flirting and some people hopeless.

Are you a flirt? If you are you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it. Flirting means giving people attention, it means, smiling, touching, whispering. In the right circumstances it is a powerful tool especially against the unwary. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so beware.

It is useful to look at some of the key indicators of flirting and they can prove extremely useful when working out if the person across the table from you is interested. The one to keep your eye on the most is “mirroring”. Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Its is one of the biggest giveaways there is.

Eye Contact

Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow Any form of winking Rapid eye movement and blinking Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away. Hair and Mouth

Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion Eye contact whilst playing with hair Touching your hair at any time Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing Lip licking Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue

Body Movement

The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze The copying of your posture – mirroring Holding your gaze whilst moving to music Using a posture with legs crossed towards you Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze Open legged posture facing you The display of flesh of arm or thigh Touching

They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you They will play with their hands and then with yours

The Way they Speak

Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own Lots of laughter and questioning tones In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was. The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.