Like other dating scene, finding lesbian personals online is quite easy with the help of several available dating sites focusing on women seeking women. This alone makes finding a good partner a lot easier. Still, you need to carefully select your partner to make sure the relationship is enjoyable for both parties. The most important stage of all should be the first day, when you actually meet the potential partner in person. There are several things you need to make sure when you are meeting someone you met online for the first time.
Relaxation – Prior to your date, do not drink to relax. Instead, do some relaxation exercises such as deep breathing. You want to be sharp and alert, not sloppy and obnoxious.
Dressing – Wear clothes that you feel good in. Be sure to wear comfortable shoes. You do not want to be miserable or fidgety about what you are wearing. Complaining how uncomfortable you are is not a good conversational topic.
Venue & Activity – Your first date should be at a venue that is conducive for talking to each other. Do not go to one of your “regular hangouts” where you will see a bunch of your buddies. If you go to a movie, be sure to include dinner or drinks so you can visit, too. Remember the idea is to get to know each other. Do not orchestrate the evening so that it is filled with distractions and intrusive friends.
Conversation Topics – It’s always a good idea to have several topics that you can easily talk about. Current events, trivia, popular music and movies, etc. Keep the conversation fun and not too heavy. Do not monopolize the conversation. Ask her questions, too!
Body Language – Smile when you greet your date. This shows her that you’re happy to see her; and, you’ll look friendly and fun. Sit-up straight and lean forward to show you are interested. Refrain from slouching and yawning. Plus, un-cross your arms; crossing them can make you seem bored or unapproachable.
Focus – Eye contact is most important. Look at her when she is talking. Put the cell phone away. Do not be checking for messages or changing your status on Facebook! And, do not be gawking at other women or looking over her shoulder! Pay attention to your date!
Genuine – Be honest and sincere. Do not try to be overly impressive. Being too arrogant will probably earn you a spot on the Reject List. She’ll be more impressed by your modesty.
Good Listener – Really listen to what she is saying. Do not be waiting for her to stop talking so you can throw in your two cents. Do not hijack the conversation. Show interest.
Etiquette – Manners are always a must. Be courteous, punctual and polite. Here’s a quick refresher on table manners: Keep your elbows off the table, napkin in your lap, do not talk with your mouth full and do not speed eat! She is watching you!
Follow-Up – You had fun, you flirted, you enjoyed each other’s company and you’d absolutely like to see each other again. Don’t keep that a secret. Offer a hug or a kiss. Let her know that you had a great time and you’d like to do it again. Do not play the waiting game, i.e. waiting three days until you call her. It is okay to text her that night. Before you go to bed tell her that you had a great time and you will call her in a day or two.
Last but not least, only go further if you are totally comfortable with the person. There’s no need to rush and decide everything during the first meet. Take your time, have a second and third meets if you need to, then decide if the person you are meeting with can really be your life-partner.
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