It’s important to be realistic. Sitting down and creating a “dream sheet” for the girl of your dreams is ridiculous. A lot of times the people that we are happiest with are the ones that we didn’t map out on a piece of paper. Whatever it is that you’re looking for there should be some substance to the person. Saying that you want a girl with blonde hair and brown eyes that’s 5’4″ is a bit much don’t you think? You’re going to be kicking yourself when you pass up someone else because your cookie-cutter girl hasn’t come along yet.

Structure yourself before getting in the dating game. Form a routine: working out, eating, shopping, work, etc. Get yourself in a place where your mind is working right and you’re able to focus on what it is you’re trying to do. You don’t have to change who you are just improve on the things you can. Getting a haircut or buying some new clothes is always nice, making yourself look good is going to boost your confidence, and that’s something everyone needs. Think of all the time girls spend getting ready to go out, they do it to impress you–so put some effort into yourself.

Dating someone is about the whole package, a good overall deal. One night stands are for the people that are just “attractive” or “easy”. Don’t form a relationship around someone because of just their looks, or the fact you can get them to do anything you want. Not only are you hurting that person, but you’re letting yourself down by not reaching your potential. Remember that dating is not marriage, you’re supposed to meet people. There is no reason to settle for the first person you meet. Find someone you really like and commit, it’s easy once you put your mind to it.

In talking to women never make yourself seem desperate. You want to leave them with some mystery, they’re going to be thinking about you. So don’t give out your life’s story in your first conversation, after they’ve heard all there is they probably aren’t going to call you. Hopefully you can find someone that’s willing to work for you a little bit, thinking that can’t quite have you is what drives women crazy.